The world of childhood is great and wonderful, but it consists not only of fairy tales and games. An important aspect of the life of the growing generation is its upbringing. As different as the traditions, religions and customs of the peoples of our Earth are, the upbringing of children in different countries of the world is also different. The formation of personality follows the laws that have developed in society over many centuries of the existence of certain countries and nationalities. They have only one thing in common - love for children, but everyone has their own attitude towards the rules of upbringing.

People of all nationalities love their children, but they approach education differently

How do different countries approach raising children?

The interest of specialists in various educational systems led to the emergence of a whole science called ethnopedagogy. Ordinary parents just want to compare methods, take something for themselves, or, on the contrary, make sure of the perfection of their own approach. We decided to develop a fascinating topic and present to you the peculiarities of raising children in different countries in the form of small informative comments.

What systems exist in Europe?

We will start with our closest neighbors in the West, or rather, with some European countries. Having united into the European Union, the countries did not lose their authenticity and retained their usual systems for forming a new generation. The foundations of each of them were laid over many centuries in Spain and England, Germany and France, but the methods themselves underwent changes, focusing on the achievements of civilization. What is it like raising children in different countries?

Despite the unification, the countries of the European Union have retained their individuality, including in raising children

Relationships between children and parents in Scandinavian countries

Viking customs and harsh nature left their mark on the attitude of adults towards small family members. Children in Scandinavian families are idolized, not just loved. A large part of education consists of developing creative abilities in a small citizen. No strict restrictions and unconditional submission to discipline. Freedom in everything: in choosing hobbies, daily routine, activities. The only thing that adults pay special attention to is absolute safety for the child.

Equality is at the core of the relationship between parents and children. Adults take the little person’s opinion into account, to the point that they easily change their decision on any issue if the child speaks out against it. Kindergartens and schools accept healthy children and disabled children on equal terms. Educators in the Scandinavian countries are confident that the best tool for children’s development is play, which is why all preschool and school institutions are equipped with playrooms.

Approach to children in Sweden

The Swedes approached the formation of a small personality so boldly that almost from kindergarten children in Sweden are educated on issues of sexual differences, the process of childbirth, and the problems of contraception. Swedish laws are aimed at eliminating violence as teaching methods. Parents are prohibited from even raising their voices to their child. Compliance with the established rules is monitored by social workers.

In Sweden, sex education lessons are considered necessary - prevention of early sexual activity and abortion (more details in the article:)

In addition, the ward himself can complain about his parents, in which case the adults will face severe punishment. This approach leads to the fact that Swedish shelters are constantly replenished with new little residents.

Children in Sweden are recognized as a full-fledged legal entity, parents have to blow off specks of dust from them, even thank them for bad behavior. If one of Sweden's moms or dads decides to spank their treasure, they may face trial.

Pedagogical foundations of Norway

Norway's tolerant laws are not so strict towards parents. The most important concern of parents is that children in Norway are provided with healthy and nutritious nutrition. Fish and fish oil are always included in the children's menu. They also strictly ensure that local farm milk is supplied to the children's table. Classes in kindergartens are aimed at developing the motor abilities of children. Adults in Norway are of the opinion that running and active games are more important than mathematics or literature. In addition, in Norway they try to take children outside more often, allowing them to dig in the ground and splash in the water, explaining such actions by the desire to strengthen the immune defense of the little ones.

Norwegian children are allowed to spend a lot of time in nature, go for walks and burn off energy

French pedagogical system

The main criterion of French parenting is to instill independence in children from an early age. It is important for adult residents of France to realize themselves in this life, therefore they try to separate young members of the French family from close communication, setting certain restrictions:

• From the age of three months, a baby is taught to sleep in a separate crib. There are also clear boundaries of time: for the child and for yourself. The child goes to bed early and never sleeps in the same bed with his parents.
• French mothers actively enroll children of kindergarten age in clubs, entertainment studios, and sports sections. For working mothers, this is the best way to develop the baby and find something to do while the woman is at work.
• The French attitude towards children is gentle; punishment can only be for a truly serious offense. It is customary to reward a child for good behavior and deprive him of entertainment and treats for bad deeds.
• Grandparents in France do not babysit children; they may be asked to take the baby to a section or circle, but constant stay with the grandmother is not practiced. French old people are as independent and free from family obligations as young people.

French children are taught independence from an early age.

How are children raised in Germany?

The famous German punctuality and composure are brought up from childhood. Parents raise their children in Germany according to rules based on strictness. The baby must go to bed no later than 8 pm; he is prohibited from sitting at the computer or TV for a long time. Independence is expressed in the child picking up the fragments of a broken cup or picking up after a fall without the help of adults. In addition, there are other features:

• Grandmothers in Germany do not take part in raising babies; mothers from a certain age of the baby hire a nanny, who must have a medical education. Women take their babies with them for a walk, to a cafe, or to meet friends.
• Attendance at kindergarten begins at age 3. Children younger than this age go to classes in special play groups, accompanied by parents or nannies.
• The German preschool program does not involve teaching young citizens to read and count. Children are taught the rules of behavior in a team and are taught discipline. The child chooses his own play activities.
• Literacy education starts in primary school. Lessons are held in a playful way. Parents teach their offspring how to plan their lives, including all their chores and budgets.

German children begin to learn to read and write only at school.

Educational methods in Spain

Educational processes in Spain are fundamentally different from many countries in Europe. If we carefully consider the country's laws regarding childhood, we can say that they are all aimed at educating the adults of Spain, and not their offspring. Parents are often given severe punishments for the slightest rudeness or severity towards their son or daughter. Children in Spain can be taken away from their families if they are considered to be mistreated by their parents. There is no explicit goal to separate mother and baby; social authorities in Spain welcome the participation of adults in changing the situation for the better and eventually return the child to the family.

What is typical for England?

Prim England is faithful to royal traditions and raises real ladies and gentlemen from its little citizens. The trend of late births, when parents become parents for the first time at the age of 35-40, allows one to approach the pedagogical process seriously and thoroughly. Parents instill in their children impeccable manners and teach them to use cutlery from an early age. Restraint in expressing emotions is encouraged. It is impossible to meet a mother on the streets of England tenderly kissing her baby or cheerfully discussing something with him. Such close communication takes place only within the walls of the house; in public everything is decorous and reserved.

Most British children are like little adults - reserved and sedate

How are children raised in Asian countries?

The words of the famous movie character that the East is a delicate matter are clearly reflected in the educational methods of Asian countries. Religious tenets have a significant impact on relationships between adults and children. Parents in Asian countries carefully preserve the traditions that have developed in their society and, based on them, form a small personality.

Japanese education system

The basis of educational principles in Japan is permissiveness until the age of five. What is allowed for the baby before this period:

• Almost any desire of a child under 5 years old does not cause prohibited measures from parents. The child wants to paint all the walls in the house - please! He wants to dig up a flower pot and scatter soil on the floor - as much as he wants!
• The philosophical approach of parents to children means that these 5 years are allotted to them for complete freedom, for all kinds of games and fun. The only thing that is strictly done is teaching them politeness and good manners. A little Japanese should properly feel like a part of society and the state.
• Communication between children and parents is conducted in a calm tone; adults never raise their voices. Corporal punishment is also excluded in Japan. If the baby gets naughty in front of everyone, the mother will take him aside and quietly explain to him that he cannot behave like that.
• Mothers in Japan never use blackmail or threats against their little treasures. If a conflict occurs, the mother can be the first to reconcile, while gently showing the baby that he has upset her.

How do they teach life in China?

Educational traditions in China are a model of growing children into child prodigies. Stopping breastfeeding early, a Chinese mother sends her baby to a nursery. The strict regime of the preschool institution is scheduled minute by minute. A certain time is allotted for each action: sleep, classes, games, lunch at a precisely set time.

An important point remains teaching Chinese children to respect their elders. Everywhere in China, a sense of collectivism, hard work, discipline and mutual assistance is developing among the country's young citizens.

Focused on the early development of their treasure, mothers in China methodically take their kids to various sections, clubs, and intellectual development groups. Women study the latest methods for developing a child’s intellectual abilities and are absolutely sure that the baby should always be busy with some useful activity. There is no division between male and female responsibilities in China: a boy can wash dishes, and a girl can easily drive a nail into a wall. This is the Chinese attitude towards the younger generation.

Parent Pedagogy of India

Indian parents begin to teach their child life from the cradle. Most of the educational process falls on the mother's shoulders. Women strive to cultivate in their children a love for all life on Earth; they cultivate in them respect for elders. Training is conducted in a gentle manner, in a quiet voice and with great patience with noisy fidgets. Parents do not yell at their offspring, much less do it on the streets. Mothers reinforce in their children the ability to manage their emotions, teach them to restrain anger and irritation, which is typical for India. Most Indian adults are well-meaning, friendly and patient people.

Family and school teach Indian children to respect others and all living things

What principles are followed in the USA?

The most interesting thing about US pedagogy is that little Americans are almost professional lawyers who know their rights and the legislative norms on them well. They often go to court with complaints against parents regarding violation of their rights. Society itself in the United States widely debates the topic of children's rights, which leads to a strong legal knowledge of the latter. Let's take a look at some more features:

• The cult of family is highly developed in America. No one misses the traditional family gatherings of Christmas and Thanksgiving unless there is a very good reason.
• The practice of visiting public places with offspring is also typical for America. Young parents who cannot hire a nanny to look after their baby take him with them to adult parties.
• Many American women work as housewives, so they do not take their children to kindergarten, teaching them at home. However, not all of them teach their children to read and write. Entering the first grade of school, many young Americans cannot write or read.

The method of punishment in America is called “time out”. Parents can stop communicating with the baby, leaving him completely alone for a short time. The duration of the time-out depends on the age of the child: at 4 years old he is left alone for 4 minutes, at 5 years old 1 minute is added to the time-out. The serious attitude of mothers and fathers to discipline results in depriving their son or daughter of games on the computer, various entertainments and walks. Adults must explain to the child the reason for such a decision. A feature of the relationship between parents and children in America is their relaxed conversations about sex.

France. They don't raise children. Children are raised

“I have two children. Our son is graduating from school this year, and our daughter entered first grade just in the year we moved. From the very first day I observed and, willy-nilly, compared, “how is it with them?” Because of my husband's work, we moved several times and changed three regions of France. Therefore, I can draw some general conclusions about French children and parents,” says Ella.

“At one time, the book of the American Pamela Druckerman, “French Children Don’t Spit Food,” received a huge response. So much so that “our answer to Chamberlain” even came out. “Russian children don’t spit at all,” Margarita Zavorotnyaya called her book. But, hand on heart, let’s admit: this is not so! Children are noisy, playful and capricious. The only question is how adults react to this.

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The way the French respond to children's misbehavior is influenced by societal pressures for tolerance. Yes, I heard a young teacher scream while scolding a 6-year-old student in the pool. I saw mother geese pulling their babies aside and hissing in their ears. I know of a father who slapped his teenage daughter in the middle of the street in Nice. But this is an exception. Showing open aggression in French society is not only not accepted, but also punishable.

Starting from middle school, children are regularly surveyed, sometimes anonymously. And as soon as the child complains that “mom sometimes spanks me,” things immediately get under way. The child is sent home from school the same day to a foster family, and the parents spend several months trying to meet him. I was told about a woman who came to school every morning for 6 months to see from inside her car how strangers were bringing her daughter to classes. She herself could only follow her little girl with her eyes.

When my 15-year-old son returned home from his new high school, he complained that the classroom was too noisy. “What about the teacher?” – I asked. “Well, once he said “sil vu ple!”, but everyone made noise and continued.” Discipline in lessons in French schools is a separate issue. Teachers rarely make comments. Their task is to transfer knowledge, and not to educate your children. Probably, teachers are not “pressured” from above, even if the entire class writes a test for 2 points. Academic achievement is a personal matter for students. Paid tutoring is not as widespread as in Russian schools. Preparing and passing the BAC (French Unified State Exam) is stressful and a lot of work. But not pumping money out of parents' wallets. By the way, I still don’t know how the graduation will go. But there’s only a month left before the end of the year!”

“At meetings that are held as individual meetings with each teacher (recording is done in advance and strictly on time, no more than 15 minutes for each), the child is not reprimanded. Rather, they give advice. The English teacher puzzled me with a question: “Do you think your son is happy here? Does he have friends?

As for my daughter, the surprises began from the first day. It took us 1 working day to get her into school. If you have a child, you need school. Children must study! On September 1, a smiling monsieur came up to us and explained that since our girl did not yet speak French, he would give her individual lessons several times a week. I remember this teacher with gratitude. By Christmas our daughter was babbling as well as the French girls. It didn't cost us a centime. This is a state program for the integration of children.

At the end of each school year, the school administration asks: “Would you like to repeat this class?” What does it mean: “Do you want to keep your child for a second year?” And 1-2 students from the class “repeat.” Voluntarily. To succeed in the future. By the way, “stepping over” the classroom is also not prohibited.

The French, as Pamela Druckerman accurately noted, do not educate, but “raise” children. They are not scolded for torn or dirty things. Parents won't yell if their baby breaks a plate at dinner. They will simply give him the opportunity to remove the fragments himself. Sometimes I got the impression that adults seemed to be watching their children from the sidelines. No violent emotions. Moreover, the French are very emotional people!

In the lives of French children there are a great variety of sports clubs and other active leisure activities. But all this is a “light” version, compared to Russian music schools, dancing or figure skating. A child in France manages to visit 3-4 sections per week, for example, a conservatory, a swimming pool and an ice skating rink. All activities can be combined and there is no question of choosing “either/or”. Rarely does anyone want to succeed at just one thing. The main thing is participation! French mothers do not shift their ambitions onto the fragile shoulders of their children.”

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“I saw something completely different in immigrant families or mixed families. Russian mothers stuff their children with additional exercises ad nauseum and demand the maximum. I once watched a tall blonde in fur warm up her daughter before a performance at a regional figure skating competition. She literally pulled the girl into the splits, pushing aside the miniature French coach.

“Put my daughter away separately!” – my neighbor “worked” the math teacher. The essence of the conflict was that for working “in pairs,” when a task is given to two people, the girl received 18 points out of 20, while she always completed individual tasks with a score of 20. “I don’t see the point in working together if academic performance suffers.” “- the mother was indignant.

Of course, all parents are different. There are those who are strict, and those who don’t give a damn and are calm. There are mother friends, there are those whose authority is indisputable, even if you don’t boast about your successes, you can try to “build” the lives of your children in your own way.

Yes, we all want the best for our children. But we are accustomed to the fact that success means sacrifice, that is, “through thorns.” And for the French, life is life. And they give themselves time to enjoy it.”

Czech Republic. Trust more, demand less!

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Dasha is the mother of 10-year-old Lika. When they arrived in the Czech Republic, the girl was only one year old. Here's what she says:

“Lika almost immediately went to kindergarten, and now she goes to school with in-depth study of the English language. I will share my observations of how children are raised here. The first and most important thing is freedom in everything! Czechs raise children very loyally! No restrictions. You can do anything: crawl, jump, lick the floor and other pranks.

Young families travel a lot and teach their children to play sports from infancy. Roller skates and bicycles are a daily occurrence in the parks. In winter, most families have the opportunity to go skiing to the mountains. People lead a very active lifestyle here.

In the Czech Republic, families have 2-3 children with a small age difference. Therefore, being on maternity leave is also work that lasts for several years. Often, by the way, dads stay at home with their children. It is specific that nothing is required of children in their studies. Some schools don't even have homework. According to statistics, a large percentage of Czech residents do not strive to obtain higher education. Although in state universities education is free and generally accessible. However, teenagers are sent out of home early so that they can start an independent life: earn extra money and pay their own rent. Secondary vocational education is considered quite acceptable. But paid schools and universities are expensive. Comparable with Moscow.

But the level of requirements and knowledge here differs significantly. Strict control and discipline. It's closer to us. And there is a result: by the third grade, my daughter already speaks Czech and English fluently. When she travels abroad, she has no language barrier and communicates well.”

Denmark. The Untouchables

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A law prohibiting hitting children was passed in Denmark in 1968. For almost 50 years, more than one generation has grown up without knowing physical punishment. “In Denmark, children control their lives from the cradle! This is my opinion based on personal experience. Indeed, children cannot be mentally influenced or threatened with punishment here. By any means, I don’t mean a belt – that’s criminally punishable,” says Inna, who is married to a Dane.

However, the Danes are not exactly "mama's boys." Just the opposite, growing up in this country with a “masculine character”. The stronger half takes, perhaps, an even more active part in the development of children than women. Dads on maternity leave and male caregivers are a common occurrence. Perhaps that is why physical development and hardening are not given the last place.

For our compatriots, many things seem wild. “Children are allowed everything - they can drink from a puddle, roll in the mud, pour it on their heads, run around in socks or barefoot, take off their clothes, even if it’s winter. Teachers follow the only rule: “you can’t yell at children or physically punish” - here this is prohibited by law, but everything else is welcome. In general, no one bothers about children here. Children in summer without panama hats, in winter without hats, dressed inappropriately for the season. A common occurrence is snot or an allergic rash. It is customary for the Danes to sit directly on the asphalt or grass. They don't care at all that they might get dirty or catch a cold. A frequent occurrence is barefoot children,” Tatyana writes in her blog.

Children leave their parents' home when they reach 18 years of age. They are already considered independent people who create their own lives. Danish laws, which allow even children aged 15 to resolve housing issues, enable young people to quickly acquire their own housing.

Be that as it may, psychologists say that the Danes are one of the happiest countries in the world.

Canada. Anything is possible that does not harm you and others

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Canada is very child-friendly. Everything that is safe is allowed. Here's what 45-year-old Svetlana, who has been living in Ottawa for more than 10 years, told us:

“Several years ago, when my son was 4 years old, we came to Russia. It was a lot of stress for the child. He was perplexed, why everything was “not allowed”? You can’t sit on the grass, you can’t hug other children, you can’t touch anything in the store with your hands. Let me give you an example. In Canada, I urgently needed to order new glasses before leaving, and my son and I went to the optical department. Well, can you imagine, there are expensive frames and glass all around. And then my active four-year-old boy comes in... The consultant reacted instantly - he handed the boy two balloons! The child froze with admiration. Attention, and most importantly, hands were busy. And I successfully placed my order. No frames were damaged! And a completely opposite situation happened to us in a perfume store in Russia. No sooner had we entered than they started shushing my child and looking at me reproachfully. Canadians in general tend to avoid any conflict. In Canada, it is considered unacceptable to comment on other people's children. We are a country of councils! It seems that everyone is ready to “raise” other people’s children: in a store, on a playground, in public transport.”

Israel. Children are not punished. They make their life easier

Well, Jewish mothers are, after all, the same mothers for whom motherhood is not hard work, but joy. Therefore, whatever the child does, there are good reasons for it. Crying - tired, throwing chicken in a restaurant - exploring the world, licking shop windows - even more so exploring the world!

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Parents support the child's feelings. For example, a child crumples his drawing. Most likely, an adult will say to this: “Are you unhappy with your drawing and are angry that it doesn’t work out? I understand you". Probably, reading Yulia Gippenreiter’s books and using the “active listening” technique is included in the mandatory parent training program?! School teachers in Israel avoid giving direct characterizations to students. No “you’re great” and especially “he’s slow in math.” Any neurotic manifestation in a child’s behavior is considered a consequence of overload. A child can behave badly for only one reason - he cannot cope with his life. Children's life consists of family and school. This means that the direct task of adults - both parents and teachers - is to make life easier for the child. If you behaved badly in class, you will receive one less problem to take home. Paradox? The fundamental task of the school is the social adaptation of children. The main thing is to teach how to communicate and interact in a team. Children are recognized as having the right to be, for example, a talented speaker and not like chemistry.

However, in practice, of course, not everything is so rosy. The human factor also plays an important role. Here's what Alina, little Lily's mother, writes about her search for a kindergarten:

“When we decided to send our youngest daughter to kindergarten, we were faced with the question: which one to choose - private or public. I visited several preschools. In the first garden, all my terrible memories of my own childhood were immediately resurrected. Already on the way to the garden, we heard the teachers shouting at the children. There was a roar of multi-voiced crying in the garden. Of the four teachers, two never looked up from their phones during the walk. The other two watched the children as best they could.

I went to the second garden with a heavy feeling, assuming that I would see the same thing. But the kindergarten turned out to be the complete opposite. The nannies cheerfully shouted out some poems while playing with the children, the children laughed uncontrollably. No one cried during the walk. On the walls are children's drawings and crafts. Great play area. The manager assured that they prepare fresh breakfasts, lunches and afternoon snacks. Although in most Israeli kindergartens children are fed sandwiches that parents themselves bring from home.

For our friends, the situation turned out to be very interesting. For some reason (as I remember, everyday reasons), they chose a religious kindergarten. Therefore, every evening they listened to how their daughter, sitting on the potty, chanted prayers and explained how her mother should respect her husband. Because dad is the second person after God. When questions began about why parents drove a car on Shabbat, the family decided to find another garden.”

Germany. Loyalty and Sex Education

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In Germany, children are treated very kindly. If they scream on the train or bus or start making noise, this is normal, no one will make any comments to either the children or the parents. Well, for a mother to slap a child in the butt - this is generally unacceptable, God forbid someone else will see it and report him for cruelty to the child! Screaming and corporal punishment are strictly prohibited. But it should be noted that the patience of parents in Germany is trained to perfection!

“Our friends’ daughter does vocals,” says Tatyana. – Several years ago they came to Moscow for one of the competitions. This was their first visit to Russia. “Mom, why do children behave this way? It’s like they’re afraid of their mothers,” the 15-year-old singer asked then.

In Germany, children are treated with great respect and their personal boundaries are respected. Teenagers 15–16 years old already have the right to manage their lives. For example, if a teenager decides to quit school, virtually no one can influence this. Doesn't understand what you need to study? The time will come, he will understand. There are schools, like our evening schools, where you can come even at 20 years old. In almost any situation, German parents remain self-possessed and patient. Probably it’s the Nordic character. Not only do they not shout at children, but they also do not hiss, do not glare, and do not use other “screaming substitutes” in situations where screaming is suddenly inconvenient for some reason. Germans are generally less emotional in matters of education.”

In schools, no one will “pull by the ears” for the sake of good grades. Three is quite a tolerable result. It’s a teenager’s choice to continue studying after school or go to work. Much attention is paid to early sex education in schools.

“In third grade, the teacher asked parents to give their children a condom. The next day in class they “trained” to put it on a plastic bottle,” recalls Victoria. As they say, forewarned is protected!

United Kingdom. Adult world

“Encouraged to be independent, the English child little by little gets used to the fact that when he experiences hunger, fatigue, pain, resentment, he should not complain or bother his father or mother over trifles.” Children early understand that they live in the kingdom of adults, where they are supposed to know their place. And this place is by no means on the laps of parents.

Here, from birth, children are made to understand that there are certain rules and restrictions. They must be respected. Whims are not welcome. It is customary to stop them by switching the child’s attention to something else. The child quickly gets used to being left to his own devices and reminding his parents of his existence as little as possible. Children should be “seen but not heard” – refers to children. From school age they are not visible at all. A 13-year-old teenager traveling to school on his own by commuter train is the norm. Mothers do not work as “taxi drivers” for their children, taking them to classes and clubs.

Pragmatic British people do not spend a large part of their salary on children, as is customary here. They don’t overwhelm them with toys and don’t buy expensive things. Children grow up so fast! Why not save money by buying second-hand clothes, strollers and other items? And after use they are resold again. In books published to help parents, for example, you can find the following advice: “buy your children clothes of one specific color. This way you will save on washing.”

It is not customary to wrap up children in any weather. Bare ankles peeking out of trousers in winter are the norm. Children are being hardened. And they don’t believe in the existence of germs. Cookies picked up from the sidewalk are just cookies.

The British categorically suppress cruelty on the part of children. If a child tortures a cat, offends a younger child, or damages someone else's property, he will face severe punishment - these are the rules. Children realize early that any action carries responsibility. By the way, corporal punishment in public schools was officially abolished in England only in 1987. That is, relatively recently.

There are no cleaners in schools. Pupils from the youngest grades clean all the premises, including toilets, and even the school yard. They don't consider it a duty. I think this is due to the fact that teachers not only lead the process, but participate in it along with the students. Despite the fact that Japan is primarily presented as a high-tech country with robots on every corner, living here you quickly become accustomed to its agricultural traditions. Vegetables are grown in kindergartens and schools. They try to take students of even the most prestigious institutions at least once in their lives to a rice field to plant this cereal by hand, knee-deep in water and mud, as their ancestors did.

I still can’t get used to it, and I’m still amazed when at mass children’s parties or performances I see the ability of even the smallest Japanese to organize into groups and behave in a synchronized manner. Restless children of three to five years old dance, sing and play musical instruments in harmony, calmly wait for their turn at a concert, and this is in the most ordinary kindergartens without special deviations. It also seems to me that local children subtly sense the moment when they can frolic and scream their hearts out, but I almost never see children running around in restaurants, with the exception of my own.

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“A child is love that can be seen,” said one of the greats. And we will add: not only to see, but also to hug, and kiss, and hold this little laughing happiness tightly to us. But, in fact, we all love equally, but we educate differently. Every country, every nation and people has its own unwritten rules for “raising” the younger generation. These laws are passed down from generation to generation. They are respected and followed unquestioningly.

This is why humanity is so diverse. Today we will reveal the secrets of raising the French, Japanese, Germans, Americans and a couple of dozen other countries. Take note of all the best and, perhaps, create your own method of education, which will allow you to raise a child not only smart, talented, neat and polite, but most importantly - happy.

1. France

The French family is so strong that children and parents are in no hurry to separate and live peacefully together until they are thirty (or even more!) years old. Therefore, the opinion that they are infantile, lacking initiative and irresponsible is not unfounded. This does not mean that mothers sit with them constantly from morning to evening - the French mother quite rationally distributes time between work, personal interests, husband and child. For a modern French woman, self-realization and career have no less weight than for other Western emancipated women.

The child goes to kindergarten early, the mother returns to work. A French child does not always find himself in the center of attention of his family; he learns early to entertain himself, grows up independent, and matures quickly. French mothers, in addition, believe that a child should grow up socially adapted and therefore, from an early age, children are placed in a group. With other kids, the child learns everything, from the ability to dress independently and eat using cutlery, to reading and drawing.

Thus, he learns everything in the company of new friends and it is normal for him that his mother works as long as he can remember. Unlike Slavic families, where grandmothers often take over the care of mothers, this is not common in France. Grandparents live their own rich, fulfilling lives - traveling, playing sports or doing handicrafts in hobby groups. Therefore, all care for grandchildren falls entirely on the parents (maybe this is correct). And “parents of parents” rarely see their grandchildren and only sometimes can take them to classes in a section or circle.

2. England

The UK is famous for its strict education. The childhood of a little Englishman is filled with a lot of demands that are aimed at the formation of purely English traditional habits, views and characteristics of character and behavior in society. From a young age, children are taught to restrain the expression of their emotions. Parents show their love with restraint, but this does not mean that they love them less than representatives of other nations.

In this country it is not customary to have children early; the average age of a young mother is 35-40 years. It is believed that a young girl will not be able to raise a child correctly, because she does not yet have life experience. The British believe that you first need to create a financial base, buy a house, and then have a child. In a modern English family, as a rule, there are three children. English mothers often use the services of nannies to help them raise and educate their children. Moreover, many can afford to hire such an assistant. From a very early age in England, mothers take their children with them to cafes, cinemas, shops or other public places. Thus, children very quickly adapt to the environment and begin to communicate more boldly with their peers.

We can say that the country itself is adapted for children: everywhere there are children's corners, high chairs for babies, convenient ramps on the sidewalks for strollers, playgrounds have a safe rubber coating, and in cars the British transport children only in special chairs and must be fastened. Therefore, England is considered the safest country for children in Europe.

English children are constantly praised and believe that this increases self-esteem and self-confidence, which will help in the future to emerge victorious from difficult life situations, as befits a true Englishman. In this country, it is customary to pamper children. Corporal punishment should not be used on children here, as this can traumatize the child. And one more feature - English mothers do not have the right to reprimand someone else’s child.

3. Ireland

The Irish are very kind to the younger generation. They try not to raise their voices at children even when they break something in stores - rather, they politely ask if he is scared. First of all, Irish parents are interested in the well-being of their child. It is not difficult to meet pregnant women in adulthood here. Like the English, the Irish strive to first achieve a certain level of prosperity and only then give birth.

But despite this, there are many children in families - often four or five.
It is interesting that in this country there are no orphanages at all: for all orphans there will certainly be a foster family.

4. Belgium

Children are taught to be part of society from an early age: from the age of 2.5, children attend school. The class is taught by one teacher who works with children constantly. He teaches them to be careful, be friends, help each other, and show respect to their peers.

5. Denmark

Danish children grow up in an atmosphere of freedom and equality. From an early age, a child is a full-fledged member of the family who has the right to his opinion and can take part in resolving any issues. The main method of education among Danish parents and educators is play, and therefore kindergartens are equipped at the highest level with everything necessary for a wide variety of play programs.

6. Germany

Germans prefer to have children after the age of thirty, when they have already made a career at work. Usually they look for a nanny before the birth of the child.

In Germany, children under three years of age are raised at home. As they get older, they are taken to a "play group" once a week. There they learn to communicate with peers. After that, they are sent to kindergarten.

Raising children in Germany can be characterized by the words “protection” and “safety”. And oddly enough, the state protects children even from their own parents. From childhood, little citizens are taught that no one should offend them, beat them, punish them, or even raise their voice. Such relationships lead to permissiveness and spoiling, and to the fact that parents, in order not to suddenly cause a negative reaction in their direction from the law, are not too attached to their children, and transfer their parental responsibilities to strangers - nannies.

7. Austria

In the process of raising children in Austria, a strict approach is practiced. The fact is that parents strive to properly motivate their offspring from an early age. It is believed that Austrian parents are among the strictest in the world. On the other hand, it is here that more money is spent annually on buying toys for a child than in any other European country. But all the splendor is presented not to the detriment of the educational process.

8. Italy

A family in Italy is a clan. Holy concept. No matter how distant a person may be from his relatives, no matter how worthless he may be, if he is a member of the family, there is no doubt that she will not leave him. The birth of a child in such a family is an event not only for his immediate relatives, but also for everyone else who falls under the “seventh water on jelly” category. The baby is a gift from heaven, a little deity, everyone noisily admires him, spoils him recklessly, lavishes him with toys and sweets.

Children grow up in an atmosphere of permissiveness and lack of system, and under conditions of total control, as a result of which they grow up to be as expansive, rude, intemperate, and capricious as their parents. Surveys of travel agencies show that Italian children are the most ill-mannered tourists in Europe: they are the ones who most often do not allow other tourists to rest in peace, make noise, do not listen to their elders, eat sloppily in restaurants, do only what they consider necessary, not in accordance with the opinions of others.

Children in Italy are allowed everything. In this country, a child is first and foremost a child, so if he is active, if he plays around, stands on his head, does whatever he wants, then his parents will never punish him, because he behaves like a child and this is normal. Such children grow up artistic, liberated and not constrained, because they have not heard the word “no” at all, or heard it extremely rarely.

Italian mothers and fathers spend enough time with their children, but do not overly patronize and care, as is customary, for example, in Slavic countries.

9. Greece

Greek education is somewhat similar to Italian education. Only a good Greek parent has one more little quirk: the child must always be fed, overfed and even overfed. Therefore, a well-fed Greek baby with gyros (lavash with meat and vegetables) at the ready is a fairly common sight. Another distinctive feature of Greek families is that mothers indulge their sons unacceptably, and fathers fulfill every whim of their daughters. Moreover, this attitude persists when the matured children are already well over forty.

10. Netherlands

“Children must grow up free” is the main rule of this country. Children are allowed absolutely everything, as long as it does not threaten their health. Let them build, break, run and make noise from morning to evening - no one will say a word. Studying should also be joyful and enjoyable. Children go to school practically light: they take only sandwiches with them, and everything they need for classes is given to them directly in class.

11. Sweden

Sweden, like other Scandinavian countries, leads the ranking of the most comfortable countries for children and their mothers. Like the Germans, the Swedes have a negative attitude towards hitting a child, even if he has done something wrong. Children from an early age know about their right to privacy. However, certain limits and boundaries of strictness exist in Swedish families, since it is believed that permissiveness and spoiling lead to a person growing up unhappy. But if parents forbid something to their child, then they are obliged to explain why, listen to his arguments and opinion, the Swedes are for dialogue.

12. Spain

The main goal of all parents in Spain is happy children. Spaniards love to talk about their children, admire them, give gifts for something or just because. Due to its southern emotionality, outbursts of anger directed towards the child are possible, but, as a rule, they do not last long and end with strong hugs, kisses and apologies.

Children do not grow up selfish and spoiled, because the concepts of good and evil, bad deeds and those that can be set as an example for others are clearly separated. Having lived such a childhood, adult Spaniards become quite self-confident, cheerful and know how, like their parents, to enjoy life and have fun.

13. Russia.

If in Russia, on average, couples decide to have a child at the age of 25-28 years, then in America and Europe - no earlier than 31-33. Older parents have more financial opportunities to raise and provide for their child, have greater financial independence from the state and devote more time to their family.

If a Russian child goes to kindergarten (nursery) at 1.5 years old, then a German or American child goes only at 3-4 years old. That is, the child spends less time at home with his mother. Although home education is considered the most effective, it allows you to raise a bright personality in a child.

The second difference between Russian upbringing is the amount of time devoted to the child. If in Russia it is not customary to take a child to holidays and parties, then in the USA you can easily take a child to a corporate event if it is not possible to hire a nanny. But we have grandparents, mothers-in-law and mothers-in-law! Who spend so much time with their children that parents can easily go on vacation to the sea.

In our country, unlike, say, Japan, it has always been believed that a child should begin to be taught even when he can be laid across the bench. In other words, instill in him social rules and norms from a very young age. Teaching the baby to be independent is also in order. Many mothers do not try to pick up their child at the first fall. He must overcome difficulties himself.

Russian families, as a rule, are always concerned with the issue of housing and the issue of money. The father is the breadwinner and breadwinner. He does not participate in housework and does not wipe the snot of whining children. Mom is trying to keep her job during all three years of maternity leave. But usually he can’t stand it and goes to work earlier - either from lack of money or for reasons of mental balance.

Modern Russia, although it tries to be guided by Western and other theories of raising children (breastfeeding up to three years, co-sleeping, permissiveness, etc.), but Domostroev’s classical attitudes are in our blood - either a carrot or a stick.
A nanny in Russia is not available to most Russians. Kindergartens are often uninteresting, so preschool children are usually left to grandparents while parents earn their daily bread by the sweat of their brow.

The child remains under the parent's wing for as long as his father and mother can hold him.
A Russian mother cannot calmly watch her child jumping through puddles in new sneakers or jumping over fences in a white dress. And that’s why you can see a mother scolding her child on the streets.

The Russian mentality is not understandable to the West.
Soulful and warm-hearted, brave to the point of madness, hospitable and daring, they do not mince words. Russians value space and freedom, easily slap children on the head and immediately kiss them, pressing them to their chests. Russians are conscientious, sympathetic and, at the same time, stern and adamant.

14. USA

In the USA, all worries about the child fall on the shoulders of the young mother, who is in no hurry to return from maternity leave. The attitude towards children is patient and democratic. There are two main ways of punishment for any offense: the first is deprivation of a toy or the opportunity to watch TV, the second is a “rest chair”, where you should sit silently and think about what you were wrong about. And if a child tells someone that he was spanked at home, the adult who hears this will most likely call the police.

Children are given freedom of action, taught to be independent. Even in kindergarten, children are told that they have the right to their opinion. Dads often go out with American children. And situations where mom works and dad sits with the children are also much more common than ours. Children are always a subject of admiration, the center of the universe. The entire family always attends all school and kindergarten holidays.

For residents of the United States, family is sacred, so on weekends they often go on nature trips or have picnics to spend time together. What America definitely doesn’t have is the involvement of grandmothers in the process of upbringing. American grandmothers for the most part are energetic working ladies who are sincerely happy to tinker with the child on the weekend, but nothing more.

In the USA, as can be seen from many films, children are full citizens of the state, possessing rights, the violation of which is fraught with consequences. Here, children from a young age are respected by adults. They are given freedom of speech and freedom of action. Parents can only scold their child for a bad deed, but they will not raise a hand against him.

American children know their rights and can exercise them if necessary. But sometimes problems arise with responsibilities, since children quickly get used to being praised to the skies.

15. Canada

Children can do anything. Or almost everything. They do not know the word “no,” and all education is aimed at developing free creative self-expression. Everyone just wants to enjoy life: both children and adults.
The lack of strict requirements, regime and discipline does not always have a positive effect on the final result. The result is an overly ambitious egocentric person who is unable to adequately assess his shortcomings and weaknesses.

16. Cuba

Every Cuban woman is taught the female role from a young age. Girls help their mothers around the house, but boys are raised as men, encouraging courage and strength. The family always has a very trusting relationship, and little Cubans, as a rule, have no secrets from their parents.

The child is cared for by the mother or grandmother; if everyone is busy, there are many public kindergartens and parents do not have any difficulty in enrolling their child in a preschool institution. But Cubans rarely invite nannies.

17. Japan

In Japan, there is a gradation of parenting methods by age. Until the age of 5, a child can do whatever his heart desires. He will be indulged in all his whims and his every desire will be fulfilled. From 5 to 15 years old, it is customary to treat a child literally like a slave. During this period, any word of a parent is law for a child. But after 15 years, a teenager is treated as an equal and considered an independent person who deserves respect.

A Japanese parent will never raise his voice at his child, much less spank him. A Japanese child can be sure that they will always listen to him carefully and come to his aid. The secret of the calmness of Japanese parents and the obedience of their children is simple: only at the first unbiased glance it may seem that children are allowed everything. Therefore, the expression “Japanese education” has already become a household word. But in reality, everything is not quite like that. The Japanese allow a child to do many things only until he is five years old, then he is placed within strict limits.

Japanese parents never raise their children in public. They make comments to them, but in private and as calmly as possible.
In addition, it should be remembered that the Japanese have a completely different mentality - often it simply won’t occur to a little Japanese child to do something extraordinary (after all, they have a good example before them - always restrained, careful parents).

18. China

Since many Chinese do not have more than one child, they approach raising both boys and girls in almost the same way. Therefore, in an ordinary Chinese family, most often there is no division between male and female responsibilities. Boys, for example, are taught from childhood to do housework: washing dishes, cleaning and even cooking.

In addition, most Chinese children are polite and have good manners. Children from an early age go to kindergartens (sometimes even from three months), where they live according to the rules of the collective in full accordance with accepted norms. A strict regime also gives its positive results: kids begin to go to the potty early, sleep and eat strictly according to schedule, grow obedient, within the strict framework of rules established once and for all.

A Chinese child amazes foreigners on vacation because he unquestioningly follows his mother’s instructions, does not make trouble, and can sit still for hours while the children of other tourists destroy the restaurant. The secret is that the child is taught to be obedient from the cradle and kept in strictness. The Chinese spare no effort and resources for the diversified development of the child and the search for his talent, and if one is found, then the child with the instilled skill for daily work achieves considerable results.

The state takes full care of little Chinese children while their parents disappear at work. Already in kindergarten, children learn to read and write. The role of parents here is to teach the child to obey. For the Chinese, the ideal child is an obedient child. Mischief is not honored here, and if a child crosses the boundaries set by his parents, he will face severe punishment.

19. Vietnam

The attitude of Vietnamese families towards the educational process can be characterized as unobtrusive authority. Despite the fact that children take a lot from the street, hanging out among their own kind and adopting social norms from peers and older children, a clear position in relation to their parents is formed in their minds. But each child has his own criterion of “good and evil”: children are very attached to all family members and try not to do things that could upset their parents.

20. Thailand

“The best teacher is personal experience.” Thais do not suffer from overprotection, unlike many Slavs. They believe that experience teaches better than any words, so they do not press children with abundant teachings. Thai parents do not scream or rush as fast as they can to pick up their fallen baby. He will shake himself off, get up and run to play.

They, of course, tell the child that some actions are dangerous and some are indecent, but ultimately the child makes his own choice. That is, any oral instruction is of an informational and recommendatory nature, and the child chooses.

21. Algeria

Parents give birth a lot and constantly work to provide for the family, so the state takes on a lot of work in organizing the educational process. Children are partly left to their own devices, partly their development depends on the work of educators, teachers and representatives of additional education. On the other hand, they early learn to be independent and, one way or another, integrate among their own kind.

22. Namibia

The population of Namibia consists of many different tribes living together with the descendants of the colonialists. Naturally, such a different national composition affects some differences in attitudes towards raising children. At the same time, there are also general points. Mostly women give birth to many children. The babies are carried on their backs, secured with pieces of beautiful colored fabric. Despite the lack of educational facilities, children have some other advantages. They play freely with the animals and explore the world while their mothers try to stay nearby.

23. Islamic countries

From the perspective of parents raised in Islam, a child is only given to them for safekeeping. A pure heart should be taught good deeds. Otherwise, it is the parents who are responsible for bad upbringing and bear the entire burden of its sin on themselves. Immediately, as soon as the mind and sense of shame begin to form, the baby is taken under control. At the same time, parents try not to reproach the child for a long time, avoiding the appearance of “immunity” to teachings.


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Each country has its own traditions and its own principles of raising children. English parents have children at the age of about forty, use the services of nannies and raise future winners from their children using all available methods. Cubans bathe children in love, easily push them off to their grandmothers and allow them to behave as liberated as the child desires. German children are wrapped only in smart clothes, protected even from their parents, everything is allowed to them, and they walk in any weather.

In South Korea, children under seven years old are angels who are prohibited from being punished, and in Israel you can go to prison for yelling at a child. In Africa, mothers use a piece of fabric to attach their babies to themselves. In Islamic countries, special attention is paid to encouraging good deeds. In Hong Kong, not a single mother will entrust her baby to even the kindest, most affectionate nanny.

In Western countries, it is believed that children should not sleep during the day so that they can sleep well at night. In Japanese and Chinese countries, children usually sleep with their parents. Parents follow this technique to prevent their children from suffering from nightmares.

The process of raising children in different countries gives different results. In Nigeria, among two-year-olds, 90 percent can wash their face, 75 percent can shop, and 39 percent can wash their plate. In the USA, it is believed that by the age of two, a child should be able to roll a car on wheels.

But whatever the traditions of upbringing in a particular country, all parents have one thing in common - love for children.

Each country has its own system based on national traditions. There is still no common point of view on what right means and what wrong means. But in any case, having become acquainted with the views of the Germans, French, Americans and Japanese on this issue, you will be able to learn something for yourself...

German upbringing

The Germans approach the birth of children very responsibly and take their time in this matter. they appear somewhere after 30 years of age and only on the condition that all the necessary material resources have been created for this. Prudent Germans set up a children's room, a playground and look for a nanny long beforehand. Perhaps it is precisely because of this pedantry that Germany ranks one of the lowest in the world in terms of the birth rate of children.

Until the age of three, most children are at home with nannies, less often with their mothers. In Germany, it is not customary to leave babies with grandmothers or neighbors. If parents need to go somewhere, they always take their child with them. A mother will not live only for the child. Children are immediately given to understand that each person has their own interests and desires.

In France, corporal punishment of children is unacceptable; in extreme cases, the mother can shout at the child. Children grow up in a friendly environment. If they do something wrong, they are deprived of some pleasure, and to encourage them they are given money.

From a very early age, children are taught rules: they must behave well, they must obey adults, they must not be capricious and fight. In the future, such suggestions help them behave adequately in a team.

A child, as a rule, sees his grandparents only on holidays or vacations.

American upbringing

Having decided to become parents, and this happens after 30 years, American families have two or three children in a row at once. They believe that it is much easier to raise: they have the same interests, and games and communication take place at the same level. But if it’s still in the family, then the mother can go to work, and the child will be with the nanny.

In America, it is prohibited to leave a child under 12 years of age alone at home or on the street. American parents do not want to give up their personal lives for the sake of their children. Therefore, if they want to go somewhere, they simply take their children with them, and this does not bother anyone. In public places there is always a place to change clothes and feed the baby. Because of such a busy lifestyle, children go to bed early in the evening. By the way, children sleep alone in their rooms almost from birth, thus learning to be independent.

Family is sacred for Americans. They have a special respectful and equal attitude towards children, although sometimes bordering on connivance. The child has complete freedom of personality and action. If a kid wants to splash in puddles, watch TV all day or walk around without a hat in winter, then no one will stop him, since this is his experience, and let him learn from his mistakes.

Children are respected in the family, but the same is demanded from the child in relation to others. Children are taught tolerance in order to avoid conflict situations. But at the same time, children should be able to defend their point of view and strive for leadership. In classes, children are not loaded with knowledge, but taught to apply it.

As a rule, mothers are involved in raising children, and fathers earn money. But weekends are usually spent with family. Recently, dads have become more active participants in the educational process. There are often cases when mom works and dad stays at home with the children. And divorced couples often practice situations where the child lives with his mother for half of the week, and with his father for the second.

In America, grandparents always live separately from their grandchildren and see them only occasionally.

Japanese upbringing

Many have probably heard that in Japan, a child under 5 years of age is treated “like a king”: he is never scolded, not punished, and everything is allowed, the only thing is that they can warn him; from 5 to 15 years of age they are treated “like a slave”: at this age a child comes into society where he is faced with many prohibitions and rules; and after 15 years “as with an equal”: the teenager already knows how to act in a given situation and is obliged to obey these rules. Of course, such a sharp change from a happy childhood to a life under pressure does not have the best effect on the child’s fragile psyche.

In Japan, public opinion is very important. The most effective way to calm down a child who is too naughty is to tell him that everyone will laugh at him or that no one will be friends with him. The Japanese know that if you go against society and public opinion, you will become an outcast and will not be able to find a decent job. The Japanese have two basic rules: “treat people the way you want them to treat you” and “whoever looks askance at your parents will turn into a flounder.”

Previously, young Japanese women got married at the age of 16, gave birth to children and only took care of the house. A woman could count on a position in society only by becoming a mother, and a man by finding an heir. Nowadays, a Japanese woman prefers to first make a career and then marry an already established man. At one time, Japanese families had three or four children, now there are one or two. But after the birth of children, a woman still mainly devotes herself to household duties.

It is very important for a Japanese woman. Mothers constantly carry babies in their arms, sleep with them, etc. Japanese women show their love for children very strongly, encourage them, never suppress them and communicate with them as adults, and instead of making comments they only become upset and express their dissatisfaction.

A mother can send her child to kindergarten only after three years, otherwise she will be considered too selfish. Children are taught to behave correctly in a team, to avoid quarrels and rivalry. If a child does not go to kindergarten, he attends clubs.

Fathers mostly do their work, but spend weekends with their children and wife. Modern Japanese mothers want to keep up with the times. They visit exhibitions, theaters or return to work. As a result, their children are often left to their own devices and suffer from loneliness.

Every country raises children differently. Somewhere parents are obsessed with grades, and somewhere they are obsessed with safety, somewhere their children can do anything, but somewhere they have to go to bed strictly according to a schedule. We are all different, sometimes it’s even surprising how much.

The editors of the site have made a selection from 8 different countries with different educational systems. Let's find out where children under 30 live with their parents, and where schools will teach children how to smile correctly.

JAPAN

Until the age of 5, a child in Japan is allowed almost everything. If you want, draw on the wallpaper, if you want, run naked down the street, if you want, break the dishes. But from the age of 5-6 years, the child is driven into a very strict framework of rules and restrictions. And trying to disobey means “losing face”, getting out of the team, and for the Japanese this is very important. They don’t raise their voices at children in Japan; they are punished with silence and alienation from the group. The Japanese cannot imagine themselves without society, so they perceive separation from home as a disaster.

HOW TO GROW GENIUS

Early development is also widely practiced in Japan. From the age of three, a child usually goes to kindergarten. Getting there is not so easy, the child must undergo quite complex testing, this will also cost a lot of money, since parents try to send their children to elite kindergartens, which are under the care of the main universities. In Japan, it is common practice from infancy to prepare a child for one profession or another, a kindergarten at a school, a school at a university. Therefore, from the birth of the child, the mother can say: “Congratulations, we have a doctor.”

INDIA

The main thing in raising children among Hindus is the desire for kindness, patience and harmony. The child is taught to respect not only people, but also nature, which is why Hindu children never destroy birds’ nests or offend dogs. They also pay great attention to self-control - you cannot shout, emotions must be restrained. This is inspired by parents who also never raise their voices in the presence of a child.

HOW NOT TO BE ANGRY AT YOUR CHILD

At school, children are taught yoga and have meditation lessons; the main focus is not on knowledge, but on education. They don’t scold you for grades, the main thing is that the person is good. Communication with children here is more informal. A teacher, or even a stranger, can pat a child on the head as a sign of sympathy or hug him to calm him down, and no one looks at it askance. Everyone is kind and open to each other. Well, what else can you expect from a country where children are taught to smile correctly during their lessons in schools.

CHINA

In China, there is no traditional division into raising boys and girls; here everyone is raised the same, since in adult life there is no division of responsibilities into “female” and “male” in the family. Both dad and mom can earn money or, conversely, stay at home with the child.

EDUCATION OF RESPONSIBILITY IN A CHILD

The main thing in raising children in China is obedience. Even from kindergarten, a child must strictly do what adults tell him. The child’s entire day is clearly scheduled; the routine is changed extremely rarely. Children are assigned chores at preschool age. At the same time, the child is sent to various clubs and sections, at the request of the parents. It is impossible to contradict them. They choose the child’s leisure time, even what toys he can play with. At the same time, praise for children in China is extremely rare.

ENGLAND

In England, on the contrary, it is customary to develop self-confidence in a child from infancy. Parents constantly praise their child, even for the smallest achievements, so that the child does not have low self-esteem. This applies to both parents and teachers in nurseries and kindergartens; comments to children are made extremely rarely. Usually they limit themselves to words, trying to explain how to do it and how not to do it.

CHRISTMAS TRADITIONS OF DIFFERENT COUNTRIES

At school, children develop a desire for individualism, value an extraordinary point of view, and try to choose their own approach to each student. The child chooses what interests him and does it as much as he wants. Parents extremely respect the personal space of their children and never enter their son or daughter’s room without asking. However, the British are always strict and make a lot of demands on their children, many of which are often excessive.

SWEDEN

In Sweden, a child is a full-fledged person, no different from an adult. He has his own rights and responsibilities, and the main thing that parents care about is his safety. Back in the 70s, Sweden banned corporal punishment at the legislative level, and “stress-free education” is practiced here. “Do with your child as you would like to be treated with you” - this is the basic rule. The child has the right to dialogue, explanation and time from adults.

SHOULD I GIVE CHILDREN EXPENSIVE GIFTS?

Interestingly, parents often sleep in the same bed with their children; it is believed that during the day there is not enough time to show their love and spend time together, so they fill this gap at night.

In the USA, children are rarely sent to kindergarten; usually the parents or a nanny sit with the child. They also often take children with them wherever they go: to the cinema, theater, even to work. Family in the USA is sacred, so family gatherings, picnics or Sunday dinners are often held there. Children are usually given freedom of action and the opportunity to choose; American parents do not punish them strictly - they are deprived of toys or put on a special chair to think.

HOW ARE CHILDREN PUNISHED IN RUSSIA

Parents are very involved in their children’s lives - they help with school projects, come to their team’s matches, and attend some events. American children are given more freedom; for example, no one will think to check whether their seventh-grade daughter has gone to bed or is lying down and reading. It's her choice.

FRANCE

French families are strong; parents usually do not want to let their children wander freely and can live together for up to 30 years. But this does not mean that the child is not independent, mothers go to work early and the child has to learn to do many things on his own. Therefore, French children often do small errands around the house, go to the store or look after younger ones.

AT WHAT AGE ARE IN RUSSIA PARENTS LET THEIR CHILD GO OUT ALONE?

Since childhood, parents move the child into a separate room; already a 6-month-old child must sleep at least in a separate crib. Parents often let their child have negative experiences on his own, without protecting him from small dangers. It’s better to let him try it himself once than for his mother to explain it to him a hundred times.

ITALY

In Italy there is also a cult of family, clan. Relatives, no matter how distant they are, will not abandon theirs. The birth of a child is treated as a gift; in childhood, children are pampered, showered with gifts and fed with sweets. The child is allowed everything, but at the same time, the parents tirelessly watch their every step. A child almost never hears the word “no,” which is why Italians often grow up rude and capricious.

WHAT TO DO IF THE OLDER CHILD IS JEALOUS OF THE YOUNGER

In Italy, the “adult-child” barrier is blurred, so children address adults on a first-name basis and can easily be rude in the spirit of: “Auntie, you’re bothering me, move over.” This behavior is not even particularly punished by parents.