I know you loved. And I played at love. I know I haven't forgotten what happened between us. And I know that you have forgiven my insults and quarrels. You let me go... 9

There are moments when you don’t even want to live, but you just want to cry and you just want to be sad, why did I love you, tell me, why do I love you? 16

You know I will live
As usual I will laugh
But I will always love you,
And through the pain I will smile. 18 (1)

I love you, but I won't run after you. Even though I’m very sorry for my love, I’ll still forget it someday, but if I don’t forget, it’s not your sadness. 4

Please don't come and don't call me,
You can’t live like that - you understand that yourself,
It will be better for both of us
Leave these late-night meetings in the past.
We are not alone - and this is the whole reason...
I can't lie and wait anymore
Sorry... this is how fate turned out
It's time for us to forget about each other! 19

If you want to go, go
If you want to forget, forget
Just know that at the end of the road
Nothing can be returned. 16 - to a guy about breaking up

Well, that's all. We are parting.
But we remain friends!
And maybe we're sad
But there is no resentment between us. 10

I don't want anyone else to recognize the caress of your hands.
I don't want anyone else to know the tenderness of your lips.
I don't want you to kiss someone else so tenderly.
I don't want to call someone else my sweetheart.
I don't want anyone else to look into your eyes
I don’t want the other one to whisper: I LOVE YOU! 8

This SMS will be the last, I wrote to you in order to say “Goodbye, dear! I know you love her...” 13

There is a moment in life,
That I don’t want to live at all,
But I just want to cry
And love someone deeply. 6

I thought you were my destiny
But it turns out that I was wrong about you,
I was happy with you
I don't regret falling in love with you! 13

One day you will realize that you have lost me. One day you will wake up alone in a dream and see how I cry, suddenly you will understand how cruel you were, you will understand the one you lost without actually recognizing me, and then one day you will cry the same tears as me. 13

I'm dying apart without you,
Quietly, slowly, but lovingly,
I don’t know what will happen next,
But I only love you.
Every day, every hour, minute,
It makes my heart hurt,
It was as if it had broken into pieces,
Lost in the grayness of the days.
I'm sad, I'm sad, I'm sad
And tear after tear on my face,
Where we will meet again - I don’t know
Maybe I'll still be with you. 13

There were insults, quarrels, and almost fights. Only at times there is silence and grace... Probably, we still loved, but did not want to understand it! 12

Please don't come to me at night
Gone from life - out of dreams.
After all, I made hundreds of promises,
That what was once again will not return... 10

Wings thrown to the ground, we will never fly into the light again. In this Universe forgotten by the Lord, you should not wait for love - it is no longer here. 9

Sorry, I'm leaving
And I'm not angry at all
I'm just tired...
This kind of “love” is not enough for me. 12

The end comes to everything.
Friends, love, suffering.
But there is no end to only one...
Why? - Memories! 12

I understand that you and I are friends, and now I’m content with only this, but don’t forget me - who loves you more than anyone in the world. 10

4.7 / 5 ( 6 votes)

Girls cannot express real feelings because of modesty, fear of loneliness and believe that they can change their partner. There are no fairy tales, and it will not be possible to rehabilitate the guy. You only have 2 options - accept him for who he is, or break up.

An excellent option for breaking up - without quarrels

The decision to break up must be conscious - you should not listen to friends and strangers. If you really decide to break up, go for it! There is no need to give a second chance or succumb to your partner’s flattery. Remember the reason that prompted you to make this decision, and be honest with yourself.

A peaceful way to break up with your partner

This option is suitable for girls who want to maintain their honor and dignity in any situation.

No quarrels, intrigues or conflicts - respect and appreciate your partner. It was not in vain that he chose you and considers you an ideal that does not suit him.

Start the conversation by listing all the advantages and benefits of your partner. End the conversation with the fact that you are not worthy of him, and he will find a better girl.

https://miaset.ru/psychology/pickup/separation.html

I got another one

If the peaceful way of parting does not help, come up with a new relationship. Use your imagination - just don't overdo it. It's better to say that you met someone else and he suggested dating, but you can't do that while you're in a relationship.

Probably, your boyfriend will not forgive such “betrayal” and the fact that you began to look at others.

How to tell a guy that we are breaking up through the real option

• Take a notepad
• Write down your partner's shortcomings
• Tactfully tell your boyfriend about all your experiences
• The solution to the problem is separation
• Prepare arguments in favor of separation
• Be resistant to any excuses and flattery

Safe way to break up with a guy

The safest option to communicate about a breakup is a letter. Write to your guy by email or message on a social network that you want to break up. No need to be too brief.

The sentence “Sorry, we need to break up” will not work for this option. The man deserves to know the real reason breakups.

Report the breakup by phone

After an SMS or email, a guy may have a lot of questions, so it’s better to refuse this option and call. By listening to your voice intonation and conducting a specific dialogue, you can come to the desired decision.

There is no need to remind you of your quarrels in conversation - try to tactfully describe everything that does not suit you.

Tell about the breakup through your friends

Some girls resort to this option in order to break off the relationship for sure.

Parents and their unfriendly attitude towards their partner are often used. The option is called the most unfortunate. It's better to talk about your feelings yourself.

Effective but negative options for separation

• Frequent quarrels
• Conflicts
• Psychological methods of reducing self-esteem
• A blow to male pride
• Comparison with other partners
• Damage to property
• Lack of meetings and communication
• Treason

A blow to pride and self-esteem

You can begin to gradually reduce a man’s self-esteem and remind him of his shortcomings every day. Often male representatives will not be able to tolerate this for long and will break up with you. If this does not happen, regularly target the guy’s psychological weaknesses.

Don't forget about his sexual unattractiveness and his failures in bed. Sooner or later the guy will give up and leave you with a broken psyche.

Comparison with other representatives of the stronger sex

Everything needs to be compared weaknesses your boyfriend. He's worse in bed, earns less, and in general you didn't choose him for his looks. Resentment, jealousy and constant quarrels will make a man think about the appropriateness of such a relationship.

But there is still an option that a guy with a weakened psyche will agree with all your arguments and will love you even more.

Damage to property or other valuables

On the Internet you can find many ways to take revenge on your ex that are suitable for breaking up. You can ruin a friend’s car, throw a dead mouse in the trunk, or squeeze the white of an egg out of a syringe between the seats.

There will be responsibility for your actions. The guy can break up and demand financial compensation for the harm caused.

Every woman is not immune from the fact that one day her beloved man will leave her. And officially registered relationships are not a panacea for the fact that this will bypass you. There can be many reasons for breaking up with a guy.

It seemed like just yesterday you had strong feelings, you were planning a life together, and had even already come up with names for your future children, but your loved one announces that he is not happy with the relationship or has met another woman.

You can survive it all

Every girl has wondered, at least once, the question of how to survive a breakup with the guy you love? The first thing to do is:

• Realize that the man you love has really left you;
• Accept this situation in order to survive this depression after breaking up, maybe even cry, but not for long;
• It’s good if you speak out loud what happened or describe the situation on paper, pouring out your feelings on it;
• Don’t look at the phone with hope that now it will ring and it will come back;
• You can keep a diary where you describe everything, the main thing is to understand that there is no turning back and you simply must understand and accept it.

The second thing you can do is treat yourself to your loved one.

To survive loneliness after a breakup, give yourself a small gift, buy something you’ve wanted for a long time, but for some reason couldn’t afford, and it doesn’t matter what kind of gift it is.

Maybe it will be jewelry or an interesting handbag, or thing, or you have long wanted to sign up for a massage, a beauty salon, or maybe go to a concert.

Third, before you met your boyfriend, you had a hobby, but when you started dating, you no longer had enough time and you had to sacrifice it. It's time to bring back your half-forgotten hobbies and try to forget your beloved guy.

Maybe it's yoga or strip dancing, embroidery or knitting, playing the guitar or drawing.

If there wasn’t one, then it’s time to take care of yourself and sign up somewhere, at least for Turkish or Japanese. And the time will be usefully occupied, and there will be no time to worry.

Fourth, playing sports is good way splash out negative emotions, pain and resentment.

For example, you will have the opportunity to beat a pear well.

You will also take care of your body, which will also have a positive effect on your well-being - after such a pastime, your mood will definitely improve and this will help you forget your ex-boyfriend forever.

Fifth - think about your appearance.

Don't sit at home and cry into your pillow.

Go and do a facial cleansing or wrap in problem areas. You can also take a fragrant bubble bath at home.

It will improve your physical condition, will lift your spirits.

Sixth - do something nice for yourself, go on a trip, think about what will suit you best and make it easier to cope with parting with your loved one? Change of scenery.

These are new impressions and emotions that will not connect you with either mutual friends or your ex-boyfriend.

You can go far away, to another state, to the sea or to the mountains, or perhaps to the countryside, to pick mushrooms.

If you go out into nature to pick mushrooms, this is another plus; peace and a relaxing environment will not let you be sad for long.

In general, it doesn’t matter where you go - the main thing is to change your usual life for a while.

And perhaps you will forget about your past experiences.

Seventh - meeting with loved ones.

Gather your girlfriends and go with them to the park or to a cafe.

You have probably already more than once best friend go even 2, talk about their situation and experiences.

But there's no need to talk about it again.

Just take a break, remember how cheerful and perky you were before meeting your boyfriend. Talk to your friends about everything, but not about your personal life.

Eighth - arrange a photo shoot for yourself, this will allow you to raise your self-esteem and understand that you are an attractive girl.

Otherwise, it happens that when a man leaves a woman, she begins to consider herself ugly, unkempt, in general, her appearance is to blame.

These photos, taken by a specialist, will give you the opportunity to believe in yourself.

Ninth - art therapy, have you heard such a newfangled word?

So, take a brush, paints and paper and draw whatever you want.

Draw with your soul, throw out all the negativity from your soul.

Tenth - loneliness, but not the kind you thought about.

Every person sometimes needs to be alone with himself, perhaps even to be sad.

Don't forbid yourself to do this.

Eleventh - finally throw your ex-lover out of your soul and life. Forget that guy who doesn't love you!

It's time to really throw away all the memories of your loved one. If you still have some of his things, then arrange a farewell evening.

Throw it in the trash or burn it, or come up with something of your own, individual.

You should really feel relieved and understand that this person no longer influences you and your feelings.

A psychologist will be able to get to the core of your problem and look at your situation from a different angle, which is sometimes necessary.

Hi all!

Breaking up is a difficult time, but there are times when people are not suitable for each other. And in order for the separation to be clear for both people - one is looking for the right words, and the other must perceive them correctly and react with dignity. How will it be in reality? Nobody knows. All people are different. But the situation can always be smoothed out.

• By sending this SMS, I will erase you from my life, and, overcoming mental pain, I will look into the future with an open heart. And you go into the night...
• Just recently I went crazy from your touch, but today it’s hard for me to remember everything that happened between us. Our dreams are not destined to come true and sadly, this is the end!
• I want to plunge into routine everyday life in order to forget you as quickly as possible. Thank you for the wonderful moments you gave me, but my heart cannot give you a second chance.
• The wind of change has blown away my addiction called love. More scarlet sail will not appear on the horizon, because I choose freedom - freedom from you!
• After this SMS, I will put up an invisible wall that will protect me from all the lies in which my love for you drowned. I’d rather say “Goodbye” now than continue to torment my soul.
• I am no longer happy with our relationship, in which understanding has disappeared. The game of love ended with this SMS!

It’s difficult to come up with farewell SMS messages when breaking up with a loved one on your own, because emotions affect intelligence. Choose ready-made words close to your soul...

• Let someone else get you, not me. But our flower of love, which until recently was fragrant, was destroyed by envious people. Now we have tickets for different life flights!
• I no longer have the feeling of wings behind my back, which means that the waterfall of love has already dried up. Now I am increasingly visited by the desire for loneliness and so be it. Goodbye!
• The ball of our love has ended, unraveled to the end. My eyes no longer know the sparkle of life. The flowers of happiness released sharp thorns. I close the door to the world of our relationships, already past.
• The dam of our river of love has collapsed. I have no desire to restore anything anymore. Forgive and goodbye!
• The field bells no longer ring in my soul and the birds of paradise have stopped singing loudly. It's all over, there is no more “us”!
• The branches of our once lush lilac have withered, every single flower. We will not see a rainbow together and we will not run towards each other. The colors of love no longer have bright colors!

It would be more correct to say farewell SMS when breaking up in your own words, because your loved one will better understand the feelings that overflow your “scale.”

Don’t come to my doorstep anymore and don’t look for meetings with me. Move on in life your own way, because we are not on the same path.

I will never forget our dates, but I also don’t see a future with you. My train left without waiting for you.

Love is the engine of life on Earth. But our mechanism of eternal feeling is broken and cannot be repaired. Be happy, but without me!

• Sublime relationships crashed against the rocks of reality and left us with pain inside, which will echo in our souls for a long time. Thanks for the experience and goodbye!
• Our book of love will have to be closed and placed on a shelf to gather dust. The last chapter of the novel has already been written and cannot be changed!
• I imagined our love to be completely different. Instead of a paradise oasis, I see an impenetrable jungle. Complete disappointment in you cuts me to the quick. I will extinguish the relationship candle forever and right now!
• I'm not looking beautiful shapes loud words are no longer needed. The hour has come when our relationship has exhausted itself. I hope that my experience with you will help me become happier.

You can also write a goodbye message to the guy who offended you. Still, SMS is better than words. Because with their help you can convey your feelings as accurately as possible.

• You broke the clock inside me and now time has stopped. I don’t have enough strength to continue to live at least as before, before you, before your betrayal. But I can do it, definitely! Goodbye!
• It’s unbearably painful for me to look at you even during a chance meeting. I want to be on another planet to forget you and everything that happened between us. This SMS will be the last, and tomorrow another life will begin, with clean slate!
• Quiet sadness overcomes my consciousness and it’s so sad to realize that everything is already over. But it could have been different! But it's all because of your attitude. I will no longer know the taste of your lips, and you will not touch my hair...
• How could you hurt the heart that loves you?! I was incredibly happy about our meeting and every day we spent together. Now your strong hands will not squeeze my body in a fit of passion, and our dawn will not come. The fairy tale has collapsed, forgive and farewell!
• I can never forget you, but we no longer have a future. The pain that is still boiling inside me will someday subside. But I don’t want to see your strange indifference anymore - this is the end!

Comments:

Victoria:

You need to leave or break up beautifully, and my personal opinion is that if you feel that the end of the relationship is not far off, it is better to put this final point on your own, then it will not hurt as much as if you receive something similar from a former loved one. By the way, I really liked some of the preparations, it’s a pity that this has never happened before and I had to come up with it myself so that I could put an end to it and stab it more painfully.

Do you know how I said goodbye to mine? I hate texting, so I just grabbed him by the collar and pulled him down the stairs.

I don’t see the point in writing all these messages beautifully and for a long time. Once they broke up, they broke up, and it didn’t matter whose fault it was. I walked out the door with my things - and good riddance, I now have to live for myself, my beloved, and look for a replacement.

But what if the boyfriend is disgusted and I want to blow him off, but blow him off in such a way that he won’t be too offended by me? I’m thinking of doing this via SMS (I don’t know how he will react when communicating “live”). All that remains is to find the words. :-)

I can’t understand who or what these SMS messages are for. If a guy doesn’t care about you, then complaining words won’t influence him. On the contrary, you will make it even more painful for the lover. And in general, I am for live communication. And then we got used to meeting and parting on the Internet. IN real life have you even met???)))) Kindergarten some...

Personally, I react to any quarrel very violently and overly emotionally. It’s hard for me to find words, and sometimes it’s impossible, because... you are in a stressful situation. But when you have cooled down a little and are left alone, you feel the incompleteness of the conversation and want to speak out. And that’s when these SMS messages come in handy. Repeatedly I wrote something similar, a feeling of completeness of the relationship appeared, such a bold and beautiful point. And by the way, she made an impression, so I recommend it.

Marianne:

Report a breakup via SMS if there have been long and serious relationship, this is cruelty and cowardice. Well, unless you seriously offended, then you yourself can write something offensive.

But I can’t tell a person about the end of a relationship, even though I know that it’s right... I always somehow feel sorry for the person, and I put off breaking up even in hopeless cases. so SMS is my option.

I broke up with guys twice, to be honest, it hurt. The first time I didn’t write anything at all and didn’t respond to his text messages to me. And the second time, yes, it happened - I wrote it. And I still regret it. Although we parted quite peacefully, in a rage I wrote nasty things. Banal stupid phrase- all men are goats. And you lead this herd. Still haven't apologized. And I’m not going to, although I feel guilty.

If you break up with a guy with a grudge, then I think that you definitely need to talk it out to him or write it to him - it will be easier to “turn the page” and start new life. And he, at least, will know that he was probably wrong, cruel, cold with you, etc., and will either try to fix everything, regardless of the text of the message received, or take time to think, and then, if irresistible will be drawn to you, will find a reason to meet. The main thing - if you still hope to restore the relationship - is not to offend with words, as I once did: “Be a man, don’t call again!”, And she herself expected the opposite, but he was simply offended.

It’s better not to break up at all than by SMS Это же не серьезно, надо друг дружке выссказать все, что хотелось, т.е. послали по-хорошему и каждый своей дорогой!!}

I don’t think that when breaking up you need to use any template phrases. You can take them as a basis and come up with something of your own. In general, you need to break up in person, and not via SMS correspondence.

Many of these SMS messages can be taken as a basis; indeed, the ideas are simply excellent, but you still need to write from yourself. I think it would be inappropriate to break up with a person with some phrase from the Internet. In general, I think that it’s not worth breaking up in this way, especially if you were in a serious and serious relationship. long term relationship. So you will not be able to put an end to your relationship.

There are many reasons for separation: misunderstandings, accumulated grievances, betrayal, and simply a feeling that the relationship has reached a dead end. Almost all stories have a beautiful beginning, but not everyone is able to put a beautiful end to it. It’s difficult to gather your thoughts and say calmly: “I’m sorry, we need to break up.” The voice may tremble treacherously, and tears will flow from the eyes. If separation is inevitable, try writing farewell letter boyfriend or beloved man. Girls, of course, are delicate creatures, but often they are the ones who take the courage and say the last “Goodbye”. It's much easier to talk about a breakup in writing.

Honesty is the best policy

This should be a good, honest letter so that he, imbued with your mood, understands that you have serious intentions and the decision is irreversible.

If you are in love, you need to report this too. It is clear that without names and surnames. It is more difficult with the formulations “we are too different”, “I had a good time with you, but...”, “we are not a match for each other”, “I am unworthy of you” (or “you are me”), “I don’t love you anymore” . It is advisable to never use the last thesis at all. It’s very offensive for a person to hear this; it’s easier to even hear about another man. You can somehow soften it, for example, plagiarize: “our love’s battery has run out.” A little humor won’t hurt, after all, the moment is difficult, we need to defuse the situation.

Well full list It’s better not to list simmering grievances; firstly, your now ex-boyfriend will have a desire to argue with each point, and secondly, why spoil your nerves?

Examples of letters

When feelings have cooled down

“Hello, bunny. You will probably be surprised that I am writing you a letter. We are used to talking to you. True, in lately all our conversations end in quarrels. I thought for a long time, understood myself, analyzed our relationship and realized: this cannot continue. Unfortunately, we were unable to preserve our feelings. We need to break up. Forgive me for the pain I may have caused you. I have already forgiven you. And goodbye!

whom you love

“Darling, good, beloved! I pulled myself together and decided to write to you in a letter everything that I could not express in words when we met. Our love has turned into some kind of one-sided ugly entity. I see that my efforts to improve relationships are leading nowhere. You rarely call and perceive our meetings as a heavy duty. I’m not made of stone, and I feel it all. It hurts, it’s hard, I won’t pretend to be strong. I will cry, miss and worry about you. But, so be it, I’m letting you go free. Fly towards your happiness. Unfortunately, I couldn't make you happy. May everything work out for you with another girl. Maybe you already have someone, but you’re afraid to say it. Fly, my dear, fly! I'm letting you go. Forever. Goodbye!"

who offended

“Hey baby. I am writing you a farewell message in prose. There is not enough mental strength for poetry and rhymes. My strength left along with the tears, which I stopped with great difficulty in order to put an end to our story. We began to quarrel often and say hurtful words to each other. We became strangers and incomprehensible to each other. The hands have ceased to be affectionate, there are no former strong hugs and... there is nothing at all. Let's admit to each other that our love has turned into nothing, we destroyed it with our efforts. My resentment is too great to continue the relationship. We are parting. Forgive and farewell!”

which changed

"My dear! How difficult it is for me to gather my thoughts and tell you everything. Even in a letter, when you don’t see my tear-stained face. I know that you betrayed me. No, not like that. You betrayed our love, our beautiful days and nights. Your action showed that I mean absolutely nothing to you. Apparently I've become your habit. You call out of habit, you come out of habit, and you even apologize out of habit. You manage to do this somehow insensitively and insincerely. Why do we need unnecessary problems? We both need to change something in our lives. You've already started. Have a nice journey, dear! I forgive you and let you go. Forever."

Former

“Hello, hello! I don’t even know how to contact you now. Your heart beats and shouts to you “beloved”, “dear”, “only”, and your mind sobers up and says “former” about you. Yes, you were a wonderful, wonderful moment in my life. Now it seems that everything was a dream. The morning came and our love dissolved."

Whom you don't love

"Dear friend! I am glad that I met you on the path of life. You are a wonderful, sincere, interesting person. You know how to love and look after beautifully. I'm sorry I can't reciprocate your feelings. My heart does not respond to the call of your heart. You can probably guess this yourself. I can no longer date you and continue this deception. Thank you for the love and warmth that you generously give, but believe me, I am not the one who will reciprocate your feelings. Let's part as friends before our relationship reaches a dead end. Keep this farewell letter and remember that I was honest with you.”

With mixed feelings

“My dear, I never thought that the hour would come when I would be forced to write these words to you. Unfortunately, we can no longer be together, and therefore, try to forget me. I know how difficult it is, because even now the most touching moments of our relationship flash through my head, for which I am incredibly grateful to you. Thank you for your sincerity, warmth and understanding. I believed you from the very beginning, and I will never regret it. While I don’t understand how I will live without you, what I will do alone, and how my heart will calm down... But I want you to know that I wish you all the brightest and most present. Life goes on despite the sad circumstances offered by our fate, which may someday give us another chance.”

Farewell letter step by step

1. Make a plan. Don't laugh, this is important. Think carefully about everything you want to say, try to take into account all the details, because you are writing the last letter, which should dot the i’s. Don’t neglect it: if you feel like you’re about to unsubscribe, it’s better to put down your pen and collect your thoughts.
2. Write in draft. Gradually add thoughts, important nuances, forgotten words to it. Perhaps you can sit down and write a heartfelt message in 15 minutes, but don't rush to send it. It’s better to re-read the letter the next day, make sure that you really wrote everything and the way you wanted. Otherwise, you risk either getting stuck in endless correspondence, or tormented by the fact that you forgot the most important thing.
3. Less pathos. Remember that men are more down-to-earth creatures than women. Where you see a wonderful castle in the clouds, he sees white spot. There is no need to use all kinds of epithets and multi-tiered comparisons. Just write what you think is important.
4. Consider the man's character. Your letter should touch him, evoke emotions, which means write the message in his language. If he can't stand diminutive words or deliberately rude ones, don't use them. You need to express your thought and convey it to him, and if he feels irritated while reading, you are unlikely to get the desired result.
5. State the purpose of your letter clearly. You can write four pages of small handwriting and say nothing. Start with what excites you. “It’s very hard for me to think about it, but our relationship is over.” “I wish you could hear me. Perhaps by reading you will understand something that you did not understand when you listened.” Remember, men are rationalists, it is important for him to understand why you started all this.
6. Don't use writing as an emotional outlet. If you want to tell a man what a scoundrel he is, just to argue with him, it’s better not to send what you wrote. In this message you only expressed your anger, but it is unlikely that a man will understand your feelings. More precisely, he will understand that you hate him and don’t want to see him, and you won’t be able to convey to him exactly why. Write with a cool head.
7. Avoid cliches. If you have read a lot of romance novels, been inspired by the fate of the heroine and now write a poem filled with high feelings and suffering, then you may end up with just another novel, and not a message to a living, real person. Formulate your thoughts in such a way that the man does not feel like a character in a love story.
8. Write correctly. Don’t be lazy, use auto-check, re-read the message before sending, correct typos. Even the most insightful and intelligent thought loses its power if it is presented in an inappropriate form. No matter how upset you are, write correctly so that while reading the man is not distracted by correcting your mistakes, straying from the main idea.
9. Write if you have anything. This is perhaps the main condition. The point of the letter is to convey your thoughts to the man. There are no thoughts for a full letter, you can write a note: “Darling, we are breaking up. They didn't get along in character. It was good with you, I don’t regret anything. Good luck in your personal life.”

Farewell letter to a guy in the army

A girl who didn’t get a boyfriend from the army is a sore subject for many military personnel. Unfortunately, this happens: while the couple is close, feelings seem indestructible, but separation proves the opposite. How can you write to your ex-beloved that you are not expecting him to leave the army?

• Write honestly. There is nothing worse than being sure that the person you love is faithful to you, and then finding out that he deceived you. Don’t think that by hiding the disappearance of feelings from a guy, you will do a good deed. Especially if you have already found a replacement for him, and your mutual friends and acquaintances know about it.
• Don't expect forgiveness right away. You're hurting your boyfriend very badly. In the army, separations are especially painful, so be prepared that the reaction will be far from friendly. Accept that you have actually become a traitor.

Farewell letter to a married man

Not a single woman is immune from being noticed. married man. It even happens that he manages to achieve reciprocity. Perhaps you immediately knew that he was married, but it may also be that this circumstance was revealed to you only now. Be that as it may, you decided for yourself that you do not need such a relationship. In this case, your reluctance to meet in person to break up is understandable.

You need to do everything to turn this page of your life. You should not hope that with this letter you will provoke his divorce - if he has not left his family yet, then the letter will not change this. And there is nothing good in “stealing” a man away from another. Write to him that he could not make the final choice, so you will have to take this step, and you are choosing a full-fledged relationship. This won't work with him, and you no longer want to bring avoidable experiences into your life. Wish him to understand himself and his desires, and ask him not to bother you anymore - there can be no love and friendship between you.

This situation is very sensitive, so it is worth thinking carefully about the appropriateness of the letter. The message may end up in the wrong hands, bringing unnecessary problems not only to the man, but also to you, so make sure that it reaches the right recipient.

How to get out of such a relationship using a letter

Do not write to your lover that you have feelings for him and you would like to be together, but you are leaving because you have a wife. In such a message, it is generally advisable not to describe the emotions you experienced. It would be best if you communicate that you have had enough time to evaluate the pros and cons of such meetings, and you have realized that this relationship has been exhausted.

Note that you are not expecting any decisive steps from him, and are not trying to manipulate him, you have only one goal - to forget about this affair and give yourself a chance to find personal happiness with another person. If you wish, you can hint that you recently met a man who is showing you signs of attention that you would like to respond to, but you do not want to " double play" Summarize that, be that as it may, you do not intend to maintain contact with him anymore, and ask him not to seek contact with you. Indicate that you are grateful to him for many pleasant moments, but the status of a mistress has long ceased to suit you.

Perhaps after this he will try to get you to talk, but if you have the willpower not to react to attempts to return everything to its previous course, then pretty soon you will be able to start a new life.

How to write a letter for your loved one to return?

As a rule, relationships collapse due to misunderstandings and the inability to find a compromise in a couple. Who knows, perhaps your farewell letter to your loved one will give you another chance, of course, provided that there are still feelings between you. If you count on this, writing a letter will require maximum effort from you.

• Use shared memories. Instead of descriptions of your future together that are abstract for a man, use what connects you. Does he remember your first kiss, your first walk, how he bought you cotton candy and you dropped it in the pond? How did you realize that you needed each other? How did you call him at night to pick you up from your girlfriend’s birthday party, and he got lost? Everything that connects you, that makes you family. Put these emotions into a letter, and if he doesn’t respond to it, then there’s really nothing to get back.
• Write everything you were afraid to say and hid. It happens that even a loved one is afraid to open up. If you haven’t shown enough tenderness, now is the time to improve and do everything to make your loved one feel needed in your life.
• Give the letter yourself. Don't send it by mail, but hand it in and wait for a response. If you can't say what you wrote, let him read it, and you sign it with a kiss at the end. It is more expressively difficult to confess your love.

How to break up with a guy without offending him via SMS

When addressing a guy by name, do not use the diminutives “Kolyunchik”, “Danka”, “Lyoshechka”, and especially do not use intimate names like “cat”, “babe”, “giraffe” and “sun”. This is a break in the relationship, you are no longer close people, don’t rub extra salt in his wound.

• I thought for a long time and decided that it was time for us to part...
• I can’t be with you anymore, I’m leaving for good...
• It's always hard to break up, but you have to...
• It's time for us to live our lives...
• I won't be able to say this when we meet. It's easier that way. We are parting...
• Let's be honest. Everything has cooled down between us for a long time. It's time to part...
• One of the simplest and most effective options: I’m not ready to continue our relationship.

Ruthless SMS

And it happens that the guy has already given you a reason: he offended you, cheated on you, told you that he doesn’t intend to get married, spat in your soul, or didn’t buy you a chocolate bar. That is, he has already taken the first step. Then, with the help of SMS, breaking up with your boyfriend will not be so painful. You are simply responding to his actions. And here the text directly depends on the severity of the “crime”.

But no matter how angry he makes you, try not to use obscene language. Reading this is even more unpleasant than listening to it.

And you can offend without swearing:

• I also went hand in hand. But for the good ones.
• How on time I didn’t marry you!
• Womanizer and liarno noneeded.
• My life is closed to you.
• Youboor, Ahamamthere is no place in my life.
• I love someone else too! Goodbye!

Resentment will certainly prompt you with the most acute formulation, which will not give your ex-lover any pleasure.

Girls' mistakes

This, of course, is not about grammatical errors, although their absence speaks in your favor. But even a farewell letter can become not a point in a relationship, but a meaningless ellipsis. To prevent this from happening, keep a few points in mind.

• Don't write a letter if you'd rather talk. Still, it is difficult to convey all the intonations and nuances in writing. It may happen that a man will see in your message a completely different meaning than you intended. If you want to sort things out once and for all, do it in person.
• Don't wait for an answer to your farewell letter. The point is for them to end the relationship. If you want to use it to attract a man’s attention, to interest him, to show that you are offended, do not hope for results. Men think straightforwardly, but not even every woman will understand such a veiled hint.
• Don't threaten or blackmail. There is no need to turn the letter literally into a farewell message. Sending a guy notes in which you threaten to do something to yourself because of him is mean and pathetic on your part.

Meeting with a young man no longer brings joy? Did you realize that your relationship has come to its logical conclusion? Perhaps it's time to part ways. There is nothing terrible about breaking up, because it is much worse to stay close to a person, knowing that you will never be happy with him. Yes, and he needs to build a relationship with another girl.

However, breaking up is sometimes much more difficult than finding your other half. It is not surprising that many young ladies are interested in how to tell a guy that we are breaking up. There are many options, you just need to choose the most suitable one for yourself.

“Don’t cut from the shoulder!” - you need to remember this saying when the thought of breaking up with your ex-lover came into your head.

Perhaps now it seems to you that there is only one way out of this situation - breaking up the relationship. However, if you take a closer look, you will realize that the problems are not so critical. Emotionality is not the best advisor in such matters.

Every person has their flaws, and your boyfriend is no exception. However, it also hides numerous advantages - those qualities that:

• once amazed you on the spot;
• made me lose my head;
• are still being held next to him.

Try to look at your chosen one unbiasedly, asking yourself: is he really positive qualities inferior to its shortcomings?

Consult with close friends who know your boyfriend well. One more opinion on this matter will never be superfluous. And when you cool down, you may realize that yesterday you just got excited.

Also, don't forget that the breakup conversation is last step to the end of the relationship. There is no need to use this method to tease your partner, attract his attention, or make him jealous. Manipulation is not the best way to get what you want from a man.

Therefore, only start talking about ending the relationship when you are absolutely convinced that you want to break up with your boyfriend. And if you have firmly decided, you should not delay having a frank conversation. Let everything be resolved as soon as possible.

Of course, the easiest way to communicate with a man is to write him an SMS or message on one of the social networks. It will be simpler and easier for you, because you won’t have to look into your previously beloved eyes and utter all these not the most joyful words, knowing that numerous questions and a showdown await you. All you do is type a text, hit send, and turn off your cell phone or go offline.

Is it possible to do this? No. It’s still not possible to write and forget about a person, besides, imagine his state when at work or school he receives a message with unexpected content: “Sorry, we’re not a couple. It would be better for us to part."

Put yourself in your place young man. How would you feel at this moment?

So, we realized that writing about a breakup is the easiest, but most undesirable method of breaking up. What are the rules for the constructive ending of a love relationship?

1. There is no need to put off a serious conversation. The breakup will be even harder for both of you if you pretend that everything is fine. The young man will most likely sense your coldness, and this fact will bring him additional suffering. Have you made your decision? Tell him that you want to break up with him. However, there is one “but”: there is no need to finish off a man if he is already going through a difficult period - the death of a loved one or problems in the family.
2. Choose the right place. Have a serious conversation on “neutral” territory, which your partner in no way associates with something pleasant or, on the contrary, negative. The best option is a previously unfamiliar cafe or park. It’s good if there are no noisy companies there at this time.
3. Say the upcoming explanation to yourself. Stop at a few very specific sentences that clearly show that there is no turning back. Vague phrases like “I’m not right for you” or “you’re too good for someone like me” are not the best way out. You need to talk about the reason for the separation honestly and reasonably, but without details (especially if you met another man).
4. Try to control your emotions. If a guy is too hot-tempered, you shouldn’t suddenly dump your decision on his head. If a man begins to put pressure on pity or conscience, do not give in. Ignore accusations and reproaches of heartlessness and callousness.
5. Don't get your hopes up. Remember that it’s all over, so you shouldn’t give a man hope with an uncertain tone or long speeches, saying that you’ll think about it or give him a chance to improve. Let the guy begin to rebuild the relationship without looking back at you.
6. Ignore him after the breakup. Staying friends is not the best solution. Even worse is to continue communicating via SMS or social networks. Just try not to remind yourself for several months. Most likely, you will have to stop meeting mutual friends for a while.

The final decision to separate is a serious and painful step. Breaking up a relationship is unpleasant for both the person being left behind and the initiator. And yet, it is within your power to reduce the intensity of passions and reduce the pain of separation. So, if you have irrevocably decided to break up with your lover, follow the following recommendations from psychologists.

1. As we have already said, it is necessary to convey this news to the guy first and always in person. Eliminate SMS, messages on social networks, email correspondence and faceless calls. No one else should know about your decision before you reveal all your cards to your man.
2. If you find it painfully difficult to say the words “I'm sorry, goodbye” out loud, you can write a note in which you express your feelings and apologies. However, you must again convey it to your ex-lover in person.
3. It often happens that after a breakup, your ex-boyfriend begins to text you or email you with threats or warnings that he will commit suicide if you do not return to him. If the threat is directed at you, report it to the competent authorities. In case of blackmail by suicide, be firm - now he is responsible for his future fate.
4. Under no circumstances allow yourself to make negative judgments about ex-boyfriend, reveal its secrets. The tighter you hold your tongue, the better you will look in the eyes of others. In addition, what if you ever have to face your ex-lover again.
5. You should not reproach yourself for separation and faded feelings. Sometimes breaking up means starting a new life, giving yourself and the other person a chance to become happier. Attract the thought that you have entered a path that will definitely lead you to happiness and meeting a new man.
6. Try to temporarily reduce contacts with mutual friends. In a conversation with them, information about your former lover will involuntarily (or deliberately) slip through. In addition, accidental or deliberate meetings with an ex-partner are also inevitable, which will not add positive emotions to you. There is no need to reduce communication with your close friends! You need their support and understanding.
7. Most important advice– don’t disappear, don’t start a new relationship without having time to break up with your old man. No explanation is the worst way to end a novel. Be courageous and decent, dotting all the i's. And a clear conscience will be a great help when you begin to organize your life.

Write or say in person? Of course, you need to talk about the breakup in person. And if you have made a final and irrevocable decision, you need to convey this unpleasant news as soon as possible.

Yes, breaking up a relationship is not a festive event, but you shouldn’t make it the end of the world either. Keep your emotions to yourself, prepare for the conversation and conduct it in such a way that your ex-boyfriend does not regret his love for you.

Hello, I am Nadezhda Plotnikova. Having successfully completed her studies at SUSU as a specialized psychologist, she devoted several years to working with children with developmental problems and consulting parents on issues of raising children. I use the experience gained, among other things, in creating articles of a psychological nature. Of course, I in no way claim to be the ultimate truth, but I hope that my articles will help dear readers deal with any difficulties.